CO-PARENTING DIFFICULTIES

DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST 

Co-parenting with a narcissist, whether this person has been clinically diagnosed or not, can be a challenging and difficult task. Narcissists have a tendency to be controlling, manipulative, and self-centered, which can make it hard to come to agreements and make decisions that are in the best interest of the child.

One of the most important things to keep in mind when co-parenting with a narcissist is to maintain clear boundaries and to have a plan in place for communication and decision-making. This can include setting up regular communication times, such as weekly phone calls or email exchanges, and outlining specific procedures for handling disputes or disagreements. There is also a variation on co-parenting called “parallel parenting” that might prove helpful in some situations. The idea of parallel parenting is less contact between the parents, with each parent being solely responsible for their time with the child(ren). In extreme situations where contact between the parents is not feasible or workable, this might be a better approach.

It can also be helpful to have a therapist or counselor who is experienced in working with narcissists and can provide support and guidance during this process. They can help to develop effective coping strategies and ways to communicate effectively with the narcissist.

It is important to keep in mind that the most important thing is the well-being of the child and to minimize the negative impact of the co-parenting relationship on the child. This may mean putting your own feelings and needs aside and focusing on the needs of the child. The Parenting Plan and all actions taken pursuant to that Plan should always be child-centered.

It is also important to note that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a serious condition that requires professional help. Your co-parent may benefit from therapy, and it's good to encourage them to seek help for the sake of the child. But realize that the final decision on seeking therapy always lies with the other parent.

In summary, co-parenting with a narcissist can be difficult. Still, it is possible to make it work by setting clear boundaries, having a plan in place for communication, seeking professional help, and putting the child's well-being first.